Holding On To Your Faith Even… “When GOD doesn’t Make Sense” By: Dr. James Dobson

When Life Breaks You—and God feels Distant

Life doesn’t always go as planned.

I never thought I would be that girl who cries in the bathroom after yet another negative pregnancy test. I never imagined I’d be the woman who looks at baby shoes in department stores with tears quietly pooling in her eyes. But here I am.

Diagnosed with PCOS in my twenties, the journey has been nothing short of heartbreaking.

And when you’re going through this kind of pain—the kind where your prayers start to sound more like questions, the kind where you start wondering if God is even listening anymore—you start craving answers.

But what if the answers don’t come?

That’s why When God Doesn’t Make Sense by Dr. James Dobson hit me in a way no other book has. It wasn’t just another Christian book filled with promises of healing and joy; it was real, raw, and honest.

It didn’t sugarcoat the pain. It didn’t try to explain away suffering with Christian cliches. Instead, it acknowledged the reality that sometimes, God is silent.

And silence can be deafening.

Faith Through the Fog: A Book That Finally Makes Sense When Nothing Else Does

One of the biggest truths Dobson shares in this book is something I wish someone had told me earlier: even faithful Christians experience doubt, confusion, and deep emotional pain.

Just because we love God doesn’t mean we’re exempt from life’s most brutal heartbreaks.

“Faith is believing when everything inside you wants to stop.”

I remember reading that line and feeling like it was written just for me. Kasi totoo naman eh. There are days I feel strong. Days when I can smile and say, “Kaya ko ‘to.

God is in control.” But there are also days when I lie in bed, staring at the ceiling, asking God, “Why me? Why not her? Why do some women get pregnant so easily while I can’t even ovulate without medication?”

This book doesn’t give us all the answers, but it gives us permission to ask the questions.

The Betrayal Barrier: When God Feels Distant and Life Feels Unfair

Dobson talks about something he calls the “betrayal barrier,” which is the moment when our suffering makes us feel like God has abandoned us.

I have hit that wall so many times. Parang you keep praying, you keep obeying, you even tithe faithfully and serve in church, but still—the healing doesn’t come. The miracle you’re begging for doesn’t happen.

And it feels like betrayal.

Kasi diba, we were told that if you do good, God will bless you. If you trust Him, He will reward you. But what happens when the reward doesn’t come?

When God Doesn’t Make Sense doesn’t pretend to answer that question with fairy dust and happy endings. Instead, it points you to the cross—to Jesus, who Himself cried out, “My God, my God, why have You forsaken me?”

That’s the kind of honesty I needed. It reminded me that even the Son of God experienced the silence of heaven.

Pain Validated: For the Woman Who Feels Invisible

As a woman with PCOS, I’ve heard my fair share of invalidating comments:

“At least it’s not cancer.”

“Just relax, and you’ll get pregnant.”

“Maybe it’s not meant to be.”

And you just want to scream. Because yes, it might not be cancer, but it is a disease. It messes with your hormones, your weight, your skin, your mood, and most of all—your dreams of becoming a mother.

This book validated my pain.

It acknowledged that some of us carry crosses that are invisible to the world, but heavy nonetheless. And for that, I felt seen.

Stories That Speak: Finding My Story in Theirs

Dobson shares real-life stories of people who suffered greatly and never got their happy ending on this side of eternity.

It’s heartbreaking, but also comforting. Because sometimes you just need to know you’re not alone.

I cried reading the story of a couple who lost their child, of a young woman who was faithful to God but died of a terminal illness.

It reminded me that my pain isn’t unique, and that God’s silence doesn’t mean He loves me any less. If anything, the stories taught me that faith isn’t about getting what you want. It’s about holding on, even when you don’t.

Here’s the part that made me put the book down and just cry:

“Healing doesn’t always look like a miracle. Sometimes, it’s the strength to keep going.”

For someone with a chronic condition like PCOS, that hit deep.

Kasi let’s be real: healing might not mean a baby. It might not even mean regular cycles or clear skin or weight loss. Sometimes healing means waking up and saying, “Lord, I still trust You,” even when nothing has changed.

That’s the miracle.

Faith is Not a Formula: When ‘Name It and Claim It’ Doesn’t Work

Growing up, I thought faith was transactional.

You pray hard, you believe hard, and you receive. But Dobson challenges that idea head-on. He says that faith isn’t a formula; it’s a relationship.

And relationships go through rough patches.

They involve trust, even when the other person seems distant. They involve commitment, even when feelings waver.

I’ve learned to see my relationship with God in the same way. It’s not always full of joy and answered prayers. Sometimes it’s full of tears and questions. But it’s still a relationship.

And that’s worth holding on to.

Why This Book Matters to Filipino Women with PCOS and Infertility

If you’re a fellow PCOS warrior reading this, I want to tell you something: you are not alone.

Your pain is real. Your tears matter. And your faith, even if it’s hanging by a thread, is enough.

When God Doesn’t Make Sense isn’t a book that will fix your condition or answer all your prayers.

But it will give you something just as important: hope. Not the bubbly, inspirational-quote kind of hope, but the gritty, quiet hope that says, “I will stay. I will believe. I will keep showing up.”

It reminded me that God isn’t intimidated by our questions.

That we can cry out to Him, even in anger, and He will still be there. That faith isn’t about pretending everything is okay—it’s about trusting that one day, it will be.

And maybe that “one day” won’t be on this side of heaven. But it’s still worth believing in.

Final Thoughts: For the Heart That’s Tired but Still Hoping

I won’t pretend that reading this book fixed everything.

It didn’t.

I still have PCOS. I still don’t know if I’ll ever have a child. But what I do have now is a deeper, more honest faith.

If you’re navigating PCOS, infertility, or any kind of unanswered prayer, I highly recommend this book.

It won’t offer you magic solutions, but it will offer you companionship on the journey. And sometimes, that’s the greatest miracle of all.

If this resonates with you, please share this post, tag a friend who’s also going through something similar, and let’s build a community where women like us—Filipinas with PCOS, chronic illness, or infertility—can find strength in each other and in God.

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Love,

Reese ❤️

PCOS Millennials